A bubble that promises at least six zeros and freedom ….
The bubble. For years I have had a dream, a dream to work with people, mostly women. A dream that moves me from my heart and soul. Working in groups but individually as well as partners, from one day session to a full week retreat and partially online or a mix of online and physical. The online sessions I have been doing for several years, which is for people who still need me and not have the resources to visit me and for acute care.
While I am writing this blog I came across a free ‘translation’ of ‘Our Father’, written by Pieter Derks, which is about the ‘Grab and Gluttony Culture.
- Our Value
- Who are in the market
- Hallowed be thy growth
- Your returns come
- Thy will
- As in the store and on our countertop
- Give us this day our daily purchasing power
- And increase our debt
- As we also others increase their debts
- And lead us not into Recessions
- But deliver us from inflation
- Because of you, the government and the stock exchange and the market
- Until eternity
- Amen
Meanwhile, I paid a lot of tuition. Tuition in super good training that I have had, both for my own process as for working with clients.
At some point I came to work at a training that was program aimed working. That was nice because that was what I desired to do very much. This was where my heart and soul was reaching for and i was happy. I gained energy, I was more creative, my inspiration was sparked and I was working on it daily. It was a decent amount of money I paid for the training, but within four months, I had my first customer that I could guide with my new program. I was happy, this way of working suited me, the result was very good, which gave me more satisfaction. I help women “to come into balance with their authentic self,” all the wisdom, knowledge, experience, tips, tools, methods, I could use in this new way of working. I like it at lot seeing how women each of them working on their way to their transformation.
By using the tips and tools of the program that I went through, I now make my own customized program from my personal vision,my passion, my heart and soul. My energy and business flowed, this is what I wanted to do in my heart, it was my energy that I had put to my customized programs for clients that resonate with me.
Through this training, I was brainwashed to become motivated to a following traininggiven by one of the two ladies of the training that I was following. I watched at a five-day challenge, had brief contact lines, I received a lot of attention and in hindsight, I was sucked into their marketing machine slowly. Ultimately it was a marketing promise of six-digit sales and more freedom, like so many programs out there now on the market. Little did I know that It was at the expense of my freedom, family and friends. This training had changed me, I had drifted from my authentic self and my original mission. I had listened to the coaches that are successful in creating a realm of dreams and good intentions of healers and other branches of work. During this course I felt always unhappy, my energy level dropped, I felt a tremendous pressure and competitive spirit that I finally could not take it anymore. It was to be seen, put yourself well in the market with a lot of tools that you need to buy, many just do and go above themselves to follow up on those extreme demands . It took a lot of time and energy. I was unsure because my energy was not flowing anymore, I felt I had to do everything differently , and that was precisely where the resistance came from, this was NOT MY THING! I felt anger because I had lost so much money and I neglected my family and friends because I was only struggling with this new way of working. It had taken me months to get where I wanted to be before this new way of working and in the end it changed my whole being MYSELF.
Instead of freedom Entrepreneur with financial freedom, it was a financial disaster.
I found out that it is a DIY project, a Do It Yourself Project.
You get a new module weekly, you have to work it out yourself and the bad thing is that you easily can find these expensive paid modules for free on the Internet. They are mostly videos, webinars with a PowerPoint presentation without personal guidance and also the so called coaches earn a lot on affiliation premiums ironing them with every tool they advise that you really “MUST” use if you want to be successful. Also webinars are used by previous groups without changing or deleting the names of previous attendees . So What about privacy and protection of personal data? In addition, some modules were already out of date because the Social Media and apps change quicly, think of Facebook, Linkedin etc.
Luckily in time “I AWOKE FROM THE ILLUSION!”
Those business coaches are claiming that they have more spare time and that you will gain that as well. And that this is the new way of Female entrepreneurship. Something all women dream off, to become independent and who are looking for their feminine powers.
Let me tell you that this way of working and thinking is NOT feminine energy, but pure male energy, this is driven by EGOand willpower, and has nothing to see about working from the soul, passion and working from Universal inspiration and Flow, this way of working is exhausting instead that it is something to gain from.
Luckily those setbacks made me take a break from work and these trainings, which started in November when my website broke down due to some non compatible plug-ins which I could not restore due to a very bad Internet connection at my place. This already was a warning, a big sign that I should not have ignored. Also In the month of January that followed the weather was bad in Spain which made me have to stay longer in Holland, and even there I had a bad Internet connection, so working online was not working in no way at all.
At that time I noticed how much I missed out on family and friends, and I chose to spent some time with them.
Because I did not feel good in the program and I was resenting it, I luckily did not purchase all these expensive marketing tools, I took some distance from this particular course and I started to observe how fellow students were doing. I also have been checking out others who are flooding the internet with similar courses and trainings en where they have followed their training, and I come to the conclusion, IT IS A HYPE AT THE MOMENT.
Before I started these courses, and I had written down my mission and vision everything was working effortlessly, ‘little gifts from the Universe’ I called that, and i felt a lot of gratitude for that. I had people helping me, on my land where i live which is beautiful and has a lot of opportunities to be developed, and I had a lot of people surrounding me, i experienced flow in all that I was doing to be able to realize my project my vision.
By this new form of working, in that so called willpower and coming from EGO everything changed, because of the resistance i felt for this new way, and the MUST DO SO, more distance from the Authentic Self is created and your chakra’s drain. It strats usually with the Solar Plexus energy that lowers, which causes fatigue. Which creates a blockage in your Universal energy the FLOW and you won’t be able to manifest. When you want to manifest your life from EGO, in fact you send a signal to the Universal energy that you can’t rely on the Universal Flow that you can do all this by yourself from EGO
The Universe doesn’t judge and will provide you with that space of emptiness to do things by yourself. Action = reaction.
I saw a lot of grief and discomfort around me physically and besides that everything was based on MONEY, your high investment must give its ROI (return on investment) and fast. All this pressure was draining me, the money for this so called mega course I paid at once but I used a loan for it, which luckily is in no rush of being due.
This way of working in my opinion is no longer in alignment with being AUTHENTIC. It is designed to make you a copy cat and you disappear in that mass, because your Higher Self your Soul, your passion and working from the heart are missing. I also came to the conclusion that I prefer not to use the word coach for myself anymore, I am a certified coach/ therapist, but nowadays there is a coach for everything and more people with little or no formation call themselves coach. Twice i wanted to stop this second course which was not me, and was draining all of me The first time very early in the trajectory, within the limit of 30 days, time and time again they tricked me in keep on going, and they abused my weaknesses to overrule me. Empty promises, that feeling of being shown the cookie jar but never be able to taste them, Another idea for which very expensive tools were required, because it’s is a shame to exchange time for money and the Illusion was created that I deserve more than to work alone, and get more out of life, just work 4 months a year and have holidays the rest of the time, a 6 figure or more income was promised, They gave me attention to be able to twist and manipulate me, they lifted me with false promises, until I made my payment in full. And after that payment, I was left alone, to figure it out alone and all the attention of the coach went to her next contestants their personal boat trips their own holidays and free time, and I was left alone to figure this whole course out by myself.
This is the new market, the niece are often single women, healers, coaches people who have a dream. Those people Invest, even if they don’t have that money available. They get loans and the consequences can be disastrous. I see people give up their jobs because they believe in those empty promises and the cookie jar that has been presented. They even invest more to be sure they can obtain that success that is (falsely) promised, and gain that promised return on investment. They even give a webinar inside the learning protocol, that promised cookie to give a false confidence and trust, that little lift up. These webinars are being used by those coaches in their own program and automaticly they use it in their next group.
Money making over the back of innocent other, the believer the air that has been sold, well I pass on that way of working, and more and more I see copycats rise with the same copied behavior. Money, Status and success is all that counts, and the people who encounter problems during this course are being left out and alone, neglected.
I wonder where this all will lead?
Many people remain in silence, they try and keep on keeping on, and have to show a false self to their world because they have to show success since they have started on this journey and they took a huge step, because they fear that when they do differently clients stop calling. It is a must to post on social media, and frequently with the same tone and way of working, every post every step are being liked by the coach and the group, it all has to be done according their strategy, they even correct where needed.
And little by little they become more and more choking because they follow you by the letter, and the feeling of big sister is watching you has been created. And if you give notice that you don’t feel happy with it and want to stop, they don’t reply, nor react they leave you out their hanging , and insecure, a failure, no coaching is offered, only if again you invest more money on one on one coaching sessions. And those who feel that failure or need to leave this are overwhelmed with shame, because we were not good enough and needed to be more persistent.
Work for the big Money or out of passion?
To be working 4 months a year only and the rest free time, I don’t buy it anymore. This new way of being an entrepreneur requires being very busy on daily basis with tools tricks and expensive systems to attract clients, no free time but all the energy goes to being behind your computer so in the end there is little or no time to really interact on personal base with people and really help them in their process, the one thing that is actually more important than that big money illusion., the helping people making the real connection working from the soul, is actually what really matters , that is what makes me happy, that is what I wish to keep on doing working from my heart and really helping people, progress.
Meanwhile a lot is happening online, and little by little the personal touch and connection from person to person is getting lost., this all is due to EGO, will, everything is critiqued if you are not as successful you need to make an online program fast, make money fast, return on investment fast etc etc, and exhaustion is caused by this stress, and so on and on.
IS THIS WHAT CLIENTS REALLY WANT OR LOOKING FOR?
They are overwhelmed with information online. Being visible yeah well if i look at various online coaches, I see the same way of working the same tone of messages on social media, pictures and message that look great on the first glance, but have no authenticity
Do I want to belong to this kind of people? My answer is a huge NO!
I have returned to my authentic SELF, and I returned to working with people from real connection! This gave me my fulfillment, this is what people want and need, realness and connection.
Since i made that decision people and opportunities came my way, because the centre piece was me, and my beautiful skills, I even received compliment on my website ( which the coaches told me i needed to change to attract more clients), and easily I can maintain my website without complicated tools, and have the reflection of who I am and how I work.
I work from personal binding, from soul to soul, and I even had and still have online coaching sessions, because we have created a real connection during life sessions. Working from being real authenticity is my motto, not being a copycat and following others in their way, that flow doesn’t work for me.
My trainer told me, “Your job is not your hobby!”
I WORK RIGHT FROM MY HEART AND SOUL, MY IDENTITY! If you work from your heart you make correct connection, that’s what matters when you work with people!
Be yourself, because there are too many others, is a quote from the dutch artist Loesje, and surely has a point here. Especially working from your true Self in your own way of BEING en having people flowing towards your light is something amazing, the universal energy is flowing within that. Working energetically from the female Yin energy, working with vision boards, to attract the people and tools you really need, the Cosmos is providing it all, as long as you believe in it and stay true to yourself!
All that you give the right attention Grows! People who need me find their way towards me, I realized that for that I don’t need those expensive and difficult to understand tools and authorities.
More and more i come across copies of programs, all focused on women with power, who want or need to change the world, want to be independent and they pretend to be driven from the heart and passion. Those courses are presented as if it was their own idea and making, and they all look the same, same frame, same kind of website, same prices, same selling and landing pages, same email messages, same facebook posts etc. For a while they taste a little bit of success, but sooner or later it all falls down like a house of cards.
I am not going to be fooled again by the trap of Big Bigger Biggest syndrome en that you need to invest in yourself, because one way or another you need to earn that investment back. and most of the time this money is being recounted on clients, the highest price for private sessions is required because if you don’t maintain a high price you under estimate your self is the motto of those so called super coaches.
The beauty of this all is that like other myself too i have to struggle through this, the disconnection of Matter Greed Ego and time.
The way to unconditional LOVE
Many people suffer from the wounds of EGO, you may think of:
- Not being noticed
- Not being recognized
- Not feeling good enough
- Fear of stepping out in your own Divineness
- Fear of shining your light
It is necessary to heal these wounds, because once healed you can live and work from your Higher Self, your soul, and that is all that matters. Once you start healing those wounds which are being healed because they manifest themselves and you have to relive it, they dissolve and you will ascend from EGO to unconditional (self) love, you can serve your purpose coming from kindness flow and animation, this is FLOW
Many people who experienced the same suffer from a burn out and more and more people join this group, they have given up everything for their success, but mostly within one year they have to give up.
Stay grounded and place both feet firmly on that solid ground. Be realistic, stay focussed on your personal goal and purpose, dream and keep feeling if you are still on the right track and pure!
WHAT IS YOUR GOAL IN YOUR WORK?
Is it pure for the money, being successful, have status, have a huge group of followers and likes on social media, being the top of the rank, or do you really wish to be of service? I love to help people, but i realized that I prefer to do it my way, by being authentic and helping others to be the same without becoming a copy cat of others.
Think, listen and see with your heart,dream your own dream BIG, because the Universe is generous if you dare to let go of Ego and start flowing like a river. Stop looking outside yourself, for fast money, a speedy career but reach for the light within. There is a law of attraction, Abundance is for everyone, but not for one’s Greed, be grateful for what already is in order to let it grow.
With money you can:
- Buy a house but not a hom
- Buy a bed but not the peaceful sleep
- Buy a watch but not time
- Buy a book but not the knowing
- Buy a position but not the respect
- Pay a doctor but not buy health
- You can even buy sex, but not love
- And you can buy blood but not LIFE itself
I apologize to all I have been neglecting in this period, I kept my distance and was not there because I was so tangled up in these programs and courses.
And I am grateful to those who managed to support me unconditionally and from the heart in this stress and helped me gain clarity in this process,
Do you wish to know how I work in true connection, and what I can offer you?
The beauty of it all is that since i have woken up from this bubble and landed back in my authentic self, my flow has been restored, spontane
ously people knock on my door, contact me, and beautiful co- creations are formed, opportunities rise and i have been asked to join (network) events and all without the use of automated systems, flow created simply by BEING ME.
In the middle of nature without wifi radiation en the pressure of daily life I offer a variety of services, and together we dive in deep waters on a Transformation day or week tailor made for your needs, this contains coaching, therapy, energy healing sessions, and DANCE. All this to reconnect you with your authentic SELF
There is also a possibility in small groups for couples to obtain more depth and understanding within their relationships.
Soon I also start a dance in balance with Chakradance retreat, This is possible from 4 pax. And I offer different prices for different budgets. The prices are based on the size of the group, the needs of the group and the location. Up to 5 people we can retreat on my beautiful little estate, and if the group is bigger we move to another amazing location.
With me the first Intake is always FREE OF CHARGE! In this conversation we both will feel if we have a click and how I can help you.
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Coachen en “Your Unique Transform-day(s)”
Namaste
Love & Light
Alexandra
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